Struggling to make meeting women fun?
Then you’ll love this story
To this day, I still vividly remember one approach where, for some reason, the nerves just took hold of my entire body.
I walked up to her and just spat out nonsensical verbal diarrhea.
You probably know exactly what it sounds like
“Hey, I just wanted to, you know, get your opinion about something that I…because if you think about it then… maybe you could help me with this thing, but I don’t know, can you?”
This sweet girl kindly just looked at me, smiling, and asked, “What was that?”
Then more verbal diarrhea.
After she walked out of my life, probably forever, I noticed something incredible…
I actually felt GOOD. The whole thing just seemed so funny and ridiculous to me that the nerves fled my body and allowed me to continue approaching other girls who caught my eye.
But here’s the HUGE lesson that I learned:
I kept approaching until I could finally end on a high note.
Somehow at the time, I intuitively understood the conditioning principle.
If I went home after a bad rejection, it’d make me not want to go back out the next night.
Instead, I’d tell myself after every rejection, “one last approach.”
This became a mantra for me, and I’d do approach after approach (all of which were rejections) until I finally hit it off with one girl, or maybe even got a number.
And that’s how I learned to love approaching – I’D KEEP GOING UNTIL I WON
Pretty cool right?
If you’re not having fun, you’re doing it wrong
– Jared Psych Laurence
Founder: Modern Flirting
Dating Mentor and International Speaker, San Diego